Gays, I am confused, I had a REALLY awkward moment...?

I was in a closed working space, and there was a gay co-worker, who I admit isn't bad looking. Tall, slim, youthful face, boyish charms. I had never spoke with him before, but one day I decided to talk to him. He played the shy guy, bashful, etc. One time, we were alone together, and he started rubbing my $!%# and it got hard. He unzipped it and started stroking me, even when I protested, initially I told him "no" and he kept nodding "yes" and stroked me fully hard. I finally stopped him, and we were through. I have never kissed a gay guy, or done anything more than that. Sometimes I think feminine looking/acting guys are attractive, but then I think.. that's "gay" lol.. argh. I'm not closeted, but feminine men? Make up, or swinging hips, NO facial hair.. I saw a Puerto Rican guy one time with no facial hair, and he had curls and looked cuter than most women... sigh. What do you think? :|.. BTW, that HJ was intensely hot.....